There is something euphoric about the new year. New calendars, new beginnings, new goals, and new adventures. The planner girl in me loves to see a blank year and fill it with amazing things to do. The new goals part? Not so much. Of course, I have things I want to achieve but year after year, I seem to allow myself to fail and quickly sweep them to the side. There are more important things to do than to remember to blog once a week or drink 8 glasses of water every day. Don’t even get me started on a new workout routine.
This year, I saw lots of memes floating around similar to this. While I did find it a little funny, I also found it a little disheartening. Comments followed about how people always make promises to change but never do or how Susan said she would lose 30 lbs. but look at her now. Poor Susan, she always gets a bad rap. My favorite is the gym goers (you know the ones who stay committed even when the going gets tough? A round of applause if that’s you) who think it is ok to put down the people who want to better themselves. They complain that the gym is going to be packed with all the people making resolutions. “Just give it a few weeks, it will clear out”. If you have ever made a comment like that, do you ever sit back and think maybe one of your friends or someone on social media sees those comments and the negativity you are putting out there contributes to them not being able to accomplish their goal? Sit with that for a minute… I’ll get off my soapbox…
I want you to take a moment and think about that meme. New Year’s resolutions don’t have to mean that you are going to be an entirely different person. Here’s what it should mean:
- I am going to be a better version of myself this year than I was last.
- “New You” doesn’t mean fake. This is important. Always be true to yourself.
- Identifying areas that need improvement. We are always changing. Who I was at 20 is incredibly different to who I am today and who I will be in 10 years from now.
So as we go into the new year and we struggle to stick with our “resolutions” here are three things I am embracing to help me achieve the goals I have set for myself.
One of my goals this year is to lose weight. Italy has been good to me… really good… a little too good. If I started out saying, ” I am going to work out every day”, I would be a fool to think I wouldn’t miss a day. In the past, if I missed a few days of working out I would just decide that I couldn’t do it so I might as well just quit. To help me achieve my goals, I am looking back and saying, ” Well, I worked out 3 times this week which is better than the zero times I worked out last week”. I have to grant myself grace or my history of falling short and the negative self-talk will sneak in and steal any chance I have at succeeding.
Set Healthy Bite Size Goals
When I first started thinking about goals for this year, the first thing that popped into my head was wearing a bikini on our cruise or to Malta in April. Some back story on this bikini… I have NEVER in my life felt my body was worthy of a bikini. Even when I weighed 100 lbs. I felt uncomfortable and extremely self-conscious. Now that I am 30 lbs. heavier and after two wonderful children ravaged my body, I certainly have a lot more to overcome than just weight to get into that bikini. I have so many friends here in Europe that rock cute two pieces, why can’t I? Physical and mental limitations, that is why. I have years of cake, wine, and negative thoughts to shed to get bikini ready. If I try to conquer this all in one setting, I am going to be discouraged. Seeing the changes of fitness can be slow and after a day, a week, or a month, you may not see a ton of physical changes. Help your self out by creating small goals along the way to keep your encouraged. Oh, and when you slip, refer to tip #1.
Find some Inspiration
Ever see the motivational videos that seem to leave in tears and ready to conquer the world? The ones about those who have overcome insurmountable odds and challenges to be the successful person you know them as today? These stories are told to motivate and inspire. Let’s face it, we all need a little inspiration in our lives. Some days we need it more than others. It is important on your journey to find someone who inspires you, who you feel speaks to your soul, who you can relate to. For me, it was Lysa Terkeurst. She is my spirit animal. She speaks so much truth and honesty in her books and I can always find a take away to apply to my life. Recently, I read Girl, Wash your Face by Rachel Hollis. If are struggling to move forward, pick this book up. There are so many great tips in this book to become the best you. Three books I recommend:
- The Best Yes by Lysa Terkeurst
- Uninvited by Lysa Terkeurst
- Girl, Wash your Face by Rachel Hollis
My hope for this year is to look back in December and say ” Wow. I accomplished a lot and I am better person for it”. Take a moment and look for ways to better yourself moving forward. It is never too late for something new.